Have you tried journaling before? What about having a pen pal, writing To Do lists, or writing a long text/email to someone in your life? Do you organize your thoughts by writing things down in order to get them out of your head? Well what if I told you that if you wrote a grief letter, that it might help when trying to get all of those thoughts out of your head? Now grief letters can be used in many scenarios in our life. The most obvious is after someone in our life dies, but they are also incredibly helpful after a break-up, separation, or difficult time in a relationship (even with your work colleagues!). Let me tell you how this work… First thing to know: the letters do not need to be seen by anyone but yourself. Once the are completed, it is your choice as to what you choose to do with them. You can throw them out, shred them, burn them, crumple them up in a ball and throw them around the house, or leave them for anyone day. Second, there are two parts to writing grief letters. The first letter is addressed to the person you are needing to talk to, or are experiencing difficulties with. My suggestion here is that when you go to write it, be in a space without distraction. Be on your own, get comfortable, and spend some time doing it. There are no rules here. It can be as long or as short as you need; grammar doesn’t count, and through out the English teacher in your head. This letter is not to be judged for format, it is just meant to be a place for you to get your thoughts down on paper. Now comes the best part – start writing! Say what it is that you need to the person in your life that you are struggling with. When you are done. Take a moment. Breathe. This may have been quite emotional and taken a lot of energy. Now, when you are ready (this may be at the same time, maybe later in the day, or another day entirely), you begin your second part of the letter. The second letter is to yourself. Now this letter is addressed to you from yourself – to say all that you need to about what is going on, and exactly how you need to say it. I encourage everyone of my clients to be kind here and to speak to yourself as though you were someone you love, because we can be particularly hard on ourselves – harder than we would be to anyone else in this world. When you are done this letter, you have finished the activity. Like before, I encourage you to take a breath and a moment to just pause. See how you feel, maybe talk to someone about it, or put it away and do something you enjoy to help create space. But be proud of yourself because this was A LOT of work! But it might have been enough to help you in your time of need for clarity. If you have experienced moments like these and feel that writing a grief letter might be helpful for you, I invite you to try it yourself, or connect with me to schedule an appointment, so I can be there to help you with your needs, and to help talk about the process once you have completed the letters.